Oprah's Lifeclass: Dreaming Big Life Work

When working for a dream, Joel Osteen, an American motivational speaker, shared with Oprah that it's more important to look back at how far you've come rather than focusing on how farther you have to go with your dreams. Gratitude is also essential in dreaming something big, and it is done through recognition of the blessings that come. 

I'm sharing my thoughts on several questions on working with 'Dreaming a Big Life.' 

1.  What do you believe is possible for yourself? If your answer is "nothing," why do you think that?

Everything is possible to acquire or achieve if I have strong willpower and then follow my actions. I have proven that whatever I want to achieve, I have to ask for it, believe it will happen, and then celebrate the achievement.

2.  Are you wishing or dreaming for something to happen? How can you change your wish so that it becomes a dream?

To wish or to dream could be synonymous. Wishful thinking is creating thoughts to produce future results, while dreaming is a goal waiting to materialize at any time. More important is to conceive ideas through a wish or a dream, have the will to achieve it, and reap the rewards afterward.

3.  Things don't happen overnight. What do you wholeheartedly believe you're meant to do?

Success in any endeavor is a cumulative effect of constant positive actions. What I do presently will predict who I am and what I will be destined to become. The present time is the key to the future. I may never know the lot, but I am determined to achieve my desires.

4.  What is your heart's dream (not material stuff like making money or getting a fancy car)? What truly fulfills you?

Material things are not my ultimate source of joy, although it makes me feel good. Success is short-lived, but to become fulfilled leaves a lasting bliss. What I can offer to my family and others fulfills me. Fulfillment is not based on age nor a destination, but a deeper and constant emotion of something achieved no matter what status you hold and whatever adversities will come.

5.  Are you pursuing a life or chasing a dream that isn't yours? If so, what is it?

Whatever I do is the result of my personal choice. I have the freedom to follow what I want to become. However, I need people to guide me on where I am heading. I still follow my life mentor, spiritual teachers, and even advice from family and friends. They all have a big part and contribution to my life and the achievement of my dreams.


6.  Instead of looking at the road ahead, Joel Osteen says, you sometimes need to look back and be grateful for what you already have. What are you most thankful for? What goodness has been brought into your life already?

It is essential to look at what lies ahead; that is vision. Nevertheless, looking back could lead to being stuck in the past, especially if there's an intense emotional attachment to specific events. I believe in being grateful for the blessings that have happened, whether from the past or present. Gratitude makes us open to more benefits that will come our way. In my life, I am grateful for having a supportive family and my unique skills/talents. It gives me joy and the feeling of prosperity--that life is abundant with blessings once recognized.

7.  Has anyone told you that your dream isn't possible? How will you use your energy to believe and not worry if you're feeling negative or discouraged?

There were moments from the past when I have been told, 'I can't make it' or 'I'm not that good,' followed by facial grimaces and derogatory statements. However, I choose to be optimistic rather than being affected. I know my capabilities and my limitations. I'm not easily discouraged and don't give up despite hindrances. Some people fear you will make it and would rather criticize than support you. 

In my blog post, "Following Our Heart's Desire, " I've shared my thoughts that we can achieve everything we want"Following Our Heart's Desire,," I've shared my thoughts that we can achieve everything we wanted if we genuinely aspire and need it. Otherwise, some will think our dreams are only possible once it is done.

8.  Every time a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with a positive one. Do this for an entire day. Then, rate your day. Did it feel life-changing?

Sometimes it works, but it is also good not to block it immediately; I have to feel and understand it. It only means that my instincts are working and would depend on the proper judgment. If I've made the right decision and judgment, that's the time I feel inner peace and contentment.

9.  Is there an example of a time a door closed in your life--and a door to something even better opened? Can you see now why the first door was completed on purpose?

There were instances when I needed to get what I wanted. There were unanswered wishes and dreams or still working in progress, but I believe it happens for a reason. I realized that I was not ready to receive the blessings. Whenever I get something unexpected and opposite to what I've wished for, that's the right opportunity for me.

10.  Do you expect good things in your life? What do you expect now? Or what will you start expecting?

I see the bright side of life and that good things are about to happen anytime soon or soon. I don't want to expect it because it means I am very sure of what lies ahead, but I believe in myself that something good is already happening.


© 2012 Del Cusay

Reminiscence of the Glorious Times

"Looking back through the years, a lot has changed, and it is for the better. There is a bright light in more days to come. It is a good start of creating the life that is envisioned and not just imagined." 

Several moments in our lives have been experienced that brought life lessons. There were moments of joy and sorrow, perseverance and despair, struggles and survival, yet all these have tremendously impacted our well-being.

No matter what life brings, embracing and learning from it is still necessary. Nothing in life is absolute liberty from misery and discomfort. Thus, I have written about 'Perseverance in Times of Despair.' It is an insight into how life struggles can be taken as a challenge and not a hindrance.

I remember how many times I failed in whatever endeavor, but failure is not an obstacle to achieving my most cherished hopes and dreams. In my post entitled 'How Failure Turned Into Success,' I have shared my lesson that failure is part of winning and not bad at all. Failure is like fuel that helps to ignite and sparkle. If viewed positively, it is a blessing in disguise and can lead to ultimate success.

I have learned that life can be challenging at times, and to take full responsibility for uncertainties, there is a need for 'Getting Way Ahead of Life's Adversities.' If we have experienced unpleasant events, we can better prepare and be alert the next time the same misfortune happens. This time we have the wisdom and the power to deal with it better the second time.

Through all these years, I always believe that there is an infinite power within that is subtle and untapped. If we are 'Reaching Our Highest Potential,' we can do the things we once thought impossible. We are now becoming what we believe and can do almost everything we desire if we focus on it.

Whatever life may present us, it is a must to have a sense of gratitude. Life flows with positive energy if we are 'Cultivating Gratitude for Success.' Fulfillment in life comes from being generous with what you have to offer that creates a difference. Gratitude can open the door for opportunities that can also lead to success.

Today, I am joyful and grateful as I reflect and reminisce about when I started to write for this blog, which I considered an online journal. I wrote the same time as the previous year when I conceptualized how my blog would appear to the web and the readers. The same place where I used to write my first blog post about 'The Power of Meditation' and how it has changed my life's perspective and ideals. The exact time and place of the year, yet different emotions experienced. 

Today marks the first year of my blogging. This is more than a hobby. Hence I call it passion. More than speaking is the joy felt when everything is put into writing. It is there and will continue to exist and evolve. I will continue to write as long as I am inspired. Someone may relate to it; others may have shared the same fate, and you may have learned from it.

Looking back through the years, a lot has changed, and it is for the better. There is a bright light in more days to come. It is an excellent start to creating a life that is envisioned and not just imagined. 

© 2012 Del Cusay

There is Certain Holiness in You

"It takes courage, perseverance, and sacrifice for life to become a saint, and the purity of the heart and Godly actions to become holy. You will neither become a saint nor holy. As long as you follow your life's purpose in good ways, you may not become a saint, but you are closer to becoming holy. "

What does it take to become a saint? How can you become holy? In today's modern era, people have experienced a drastic change in their way of living. To live is becoming more comfortable and convenient with the advent of rapid technological advancement. In some ways, this could mean progress, and the other way could be destruction--the good and the harmful effects of what life has to offer.

Advanced civilization has changed how people think and act. It has altered certain behaviors and values that were once good in nature. People have been so cruel, mean, and greedy. Understanding became confusion; peace turned into war; openness became selfishness, and love turned hatred.

However, no matter how bad people will become, particular goodness is left in his heart. People sometimes are challenging yet gentle. Some could be mean yet straightforward. Others could be cruel yet compassionate. There is particular goodness hidden in whatever dark side that people carry. 

Everything that happens can be understood better if you know both the bad and the good. Sometimes, you need to experience how it feels to become destructive so you appreciate the goodness in others. You need to do bad things to gauge how good you truly become. Only then do you distinguish which is better--the bad or the good.

We are commanded to do things by what is good and avoid the bad ones. But our world may be full of negativity that will test our faith. Some invisible forces will challenge you to your limits. It may be hard to escape, but to take it and live it.

Is it possible for bad people to become holy in the end? Is holiness only for the good ones? Can you become a saint if you've committed terrible evil deeds? Well, why not? Biblical history would tell that the famous saints we venerate today were once sinners. They may have been cruel and unloving in their past, but they have made significant changes and transformations. They had the power to change who they were and became holy later. They mastered the purity of their heart and spiritual service. In the end, the goodness in them prevailed.

Just like us, we can't be good all the time. It is human nature to commit mistakes and become bad occasionally. There is no such thing as an absolute human being, but only a divine being does have. Even the newly canonized saints did not live their lives in absolute good. They have been wrong even before attaining the ultimate spiritual enlightenment.

There is no need to worry if you become bad as long as you do your best to improve yourself. Your life is not your past. Your past does not define your future. Your future will depend on what you do to the present. 

Not everyone will become a saint since it is only for the chosen ones. No matter what good things you've done for humanity, there is no assurance that you will become a canonized saint. There is certain holiness in your being. Your goal is not to become a saint but to live Christ-like lives.

It takes courage, perseverance, and sacrifices for life to become a saint and the purity of the heart and Godly actions to become holy. You will neither become a saint nor holy. As long as you follow your life's purpose in good ways, you may not become a saint, but you are closer to becoming holy. 

© 2012 Del Cusay